Category Archives: Advice

Has OkCupid Left Match in the Dust?

It’s a bit of an editorial dilemma. My site is called It’s Not a Match, which makes my use of Match.com rather integral. For years this was not a problem. I knew how to use Match, had no problem finding … Continue reading

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Advice From a Hot Chick: How To Email Your Dream Girl

The internet is still abuzz from INAM’s shocking expose, Match From a Hot Girl’s Perspective. In fact, just today it was reposted on the Huffington Post! (Can not add link because I totally made that up.) But as we suggested … Continue reading

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How To Break Up with an Internet Date

Breaking up with someone you meet conventionally is pretty easy. I mean, it’s not, it’s gut-wrenchingly awful, but at least you know how to do it. You meet them in person, apologize for having to do this, then brace yourself for … Continue reading

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How Many Emails Before We Date?

I’ve been getting this message a lot lately, in response to a first email. I think it’s becoming a trend. “Thanks for your note! You seem really cool. Wanna grab a drink? I’m more for meeting in person than trading … Continue reading

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Interview: A Man Who Stood Up His Date

The following is an email I received from Max D, a loyal reader and Internet dater. Initially, I was very proud… As per your expert instructions I sought out the perfect first date restaurant.  It’s named after an Italian opera, … Continue reading

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Men: Stop Paying For First Dates

I know, ladies, that you are united on this issue. Men should pay for every first date. You recognize that it’s archaic, maybe even a tad demeaning, but it is convention, and convention must be respected. A man will ask … Continue reading

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Should We Talk on the Phone Before Our First Date?

“Hey, B. I just met an awesome boy online, or I think he’s an awesome boy, but it’s so hard to tell! Can I ask to talk to him on the phone first, just to make sure he isn’t an … Continue reading

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Why First Dates Don’t Matter

People worry a lot about the first date. They try on different outfits, prepare topics of conversation, shave hair off preposterous parts of their body – all to make a good impression. Gotta kill on the first date. Gotta sweep … Continue reading

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Are Racial Preferences Racist?

Every dating website asks you the same question: what ethnicity are you looking for in a mate? You think about, feel a little uncomfortable, then read over the dreaded options… Asian Black/African Descent East Indian Latino/Hispanic Middle Eastern Native American … Continue reading

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Top 10 Topics to Avoid on a First Date

Last week, I gave you the one topic of conversation that can turn any date awesome. And yes, it did involve having sex with dead people. This week, however, I’m giving you the opposite: ten things that will make a … Continue reading

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